Overview
Reconciliation is one of the most misunderstood processes in human relationships. Most of us were handed slogans instead of skills: forgive and forget, time heals all wounds, family is family. When those slogans fail — and they do fail — we're left believing that either we are broken or the relationship is beyond saving. Usually, neither is true. What's missing isn't willingness. It's a working understanding of how rupture and repair actually operate.
This webinar teaches the physics and gravity of reconciliation — not a checklist, but a framework for understanding what happened, what it did, what it will take to rebuild, and what "rebuilt" can realistically look like.
A 3-hour live framework for navigating rupture, estrangement, and repair — with grace, realism, and integrity. Live on Zoom, July 29.
Do you find yourself struggling to navigate certain relationships?
Maybe you've forgiven someone — but you still don't trust them, and they don't understand why. They might even fault you for it, even though they caused the fracture in the first place.
Maybe you're estranged from your adult child, and they've told you they won't repair until you "do your own work." What does that even mean?
Maybe you're the one who stepped away, and you're wondering whether it's safe to open the door again. If so — how far? How soon? How do you keep yourself safe in the process?
Or maybe someone has genuinely harmed you, and though you want repair, you honestly don't know if it's possible.
In three hours together, we will cover:
The Spectrum of Estrangement and Repair. An orientation to the framework — and an honest look at the common expectations and misconceptions that quietly sabotage reconciliation before it begins.
The Dimensions of Harm. Harm is not one thing. We'll examine intention and impact as independent dimensions, and distinguish between intentional harm/abuse, active harm, and accidental injury — because what happened determines what repair requires.
Response Patterns. What appropriate responses to harm actually look like (and why they're appropriate), where communication breaks down, and the mechanics of trust: what it's made of, how it ruptures, and why "just trust me again" doesn't work.
The Components of Repair. The spectrum of moving forward. The critical difference between forgiveness and repair — and the misconceptions that conflate them. What reconciliation actually requires. Justice, mercy, and forgiveness, and the distinct decisions each person must make. Adjusting expectations with compromise, grief, and maturity. And finally: what kind of ongoing relationship is genuinely possible to build in place of what currently exists.
Optional -- Implications for Christians. A closing segment examining how this framework interacts with faith commitments around forgiveness, mercy, and reconciliation — including where common religious "shoulds" help, and where they get misapplied in ways that re-injure people.
Who this is for: Anyone navigating a fractured, strained, or estranged relationship — parents, adult children, siblings, spouses, and extended family. It is designed for families and relevant for all relationships, including families in business together, where rupture carries both relational and structural stakes.
What you'll leave with: A clear conceptual map of rupture, estrangement, and repair; language for conversations you haven't known how to start; realistic expectations for what repair requires from each party; and a grounded way to protect yourself while keeping the door open — or to make peace with closing it.
About your presenter: Savannah Berry Suttle, MAMFT, is the founder of Relationship Capital, LLC and Schema. A therapist-turned-consultant, she works at the intersection of family systems and real-world complexity — including family enterprises where relational rupture and business operations collide. Her work centers on bringing order to relational chaos: helping people understand what happened, what it will take to repair, and how to move forward with grace, realism, and integrity.